3 Ways to Succeed at New Year, New Me

January 1, 2020

At the close of every year you always hear the infamous “New Year, New Me”; however for the majority of us it often pans out to a continuous cycle of trying again next year.  Don’t get me wrong I’m sure you’ve come up with an awesome game plan, have either completed some DIY Pinterest project, or purchased a number of items to help attain your goal (Trust me I’ve been right there with you!) but for some reason none of it seems to keep you on track.

An industry friend posted the below on his social platforms back in 2017 and although the message is 3 years old now it continues to make things click for me.

“F**k motivation. It’s a fickle and unreliable little d*ckf**k and isn’t worth your time. Better to cultivate discipline than to rely on motivation. Force yourself to do things. Force yourself to get up out of bed and practice. Force yourself to work. Motivation is fleeting and it’s easy to rely on because it requires no concentrated effort to get. Motivation comes to you, and you don’t have to chase after it. Discipline is reliable, motivation is fleeting. The question isn’t how to keep yourself motivated. It’s how to train yourself to work without it. Keep Moving #2017 ????? ”  – Mike Tamzil of @thinktamz

Solutions over Resolutions

Res·o·lu·tion (noun) – a firm decision to do or not to do something.

Let’s start by no longer making resolutions because by definition it means you’ve already given yourself a 50% chance to fail.  We all know what we want and have an idea of how to get there but we never give ourselves a good enough reason as to why it’s important to discipline ourselves to said goal.

For example:  What- You want to lose weight.  How -You’re going to start eating right & exercising x times a week. Why–  You want to have an amazing summer body.

Everyone wants to have an amazing summer body, but dig deeper because not only do you want the results to carry over past the summer months, you need to assign a purposeful why to increase the longevity of your goal. Better reasons why could be because your family suffers from medical issues due to being overweight and you want to prevent that -OR- losing the weight will increase your confidence and overall mental wellbeing.

Go Social

I’m sure you’ve seen a bunch of friends post what they wish to achieve on social media this year. But have you done so yet? If not, you should as they say if you post something on Social Media you’re more likely to commit and follow through. Want to start a business, lose weight, etc? Share your goals with your family, friends, and followers since their all your biggest support system. Last year when I was doing the Fit Girls Guide challenge and working out like 5-6 days a week; I would post Snaps & InstaStories about meal prepping and my visits to the gym constantly. Why? Not to show off, but because there were people in my circle doing the same exact thing and if I didn’t do my daily gym snap you better believe I received messages asking if I went to the gym that day. Displaying your goals and keeping them top-of-mind will not only aid you, but in-turn encourages your support system to also assist in making sure you maintain the level of discipline needed to accomplish your goal.

Be Patient

If you are seeking instant gratification everything I’ve written to this point won’t help you. Making lifestyle changes are never easy and all good things take time. Be patient, do your research and create realistic time frames for your goals. Don’t give up just because your business hasn’t skyrocketed, you aren’t seeing a weight change on the scale, or whatever it may be because this very point will determine if you were banking on a false sense of motivation or if you acquired the discipline to push through and keep moving!

With that said let’s permanently close the road to bad habits. Start speaking things into existence and let 2020 be the year you accomplish a new BETTER you!

xo Sincerely Shanti

(Photography by Bearcat Photo)

Originally Posted: January 5, 2017

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  • Reply Odette January 5, 2017 at 3:54 pm

    I like this post. It’s clear and resonates with my own personal goals

  • Reply Kat January 5, 2017 at 4:16 pm

    Yes! Being clear and knowing the goal + the how + the why is so important to increase changes you’ll achieve it. 😀

  • Reply Lisa | Garlic + Zest January 5, 2017 at 5:13 pm

    I purposely didn’t make any resolutions — but I have written down some actionable goals — and I’m working on setting a timeline to accomplish them…. Wish me luck!

    • Reply sincerely shanti January 5, 2017 at 5:14 pm

      Best of luck, I know you can knock your goals out the park!

  • Reply Alice Hernandez January 5, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    Patience is probably the most important! Great tips!

  • Reply Kimberly Pfaehler January 5, 2017 at 7:56 pm

    Loved this post, great tips!

  • Reply Michelle January 6, 2017 at 1:06 am

    Great post and on point for the New Year. I applaud your emphasis on discipline. I learned a few strategies and the video you used was a creative twist.

  • Reply Nia Langley January 6, 2017 at 10:07 am

    Yesss! Solutions over resolutions! I need patience, too. Thanks for this post, Shanti!

  • Reply Anastasia Nicole January 6, 2017 at 2:43 pm

    Awesome post love! You had me at solutions over resolutions. And you look amazing.
    xx | A

  • Reply Danielle James January 6, 2017 at 3:07 pm

    I completely agree that discipline is key. One of my themes this year (I have 3) is organize, which includes organizing my time, goals, etc. Basically being disciplined. I recently participated in a project to maintain your resolution goals. You can check out he video here: #resolutionrealtalk

  • Reply Ebony January 6, 2017 at 5:05 pm

    Yes! Motivation is only good when it comes to sparking an idea. It takes discipline to carry it through until the end or until you discover that a particular method isn’t working. Then, you find a new method.
    Also, the renewal of the mind has to take place to see that there needs to be some type of change. It has never made sense to claim “New Year, New Me” and not actually have a new mind and replace bad habits with healthy ones.

  • Reply Cara-Marie Findlay January 7, 2017 at 1:07 pm

    “Be patient, do your research and create realistic time frames for your goals.” That is such a critical statement. A lot of times we create goals for ourselves without taking the time to research how to achieve them and then we quit because we had an unrealistic timeframe for achieving those same goals. The more we know, the further we can go. Thanks for sharing such practical tips!

  • Reply Michaela January 12, 2017 at 12:47 pm

    Definitely needed this! Thanks for sharing, great post:)

  • Reply Frederick Johnson January 2, 2018 at 2:45 pm

    Love it especially about receiving messages about whether you worked out that day lol.

    • Reply sincerely shanti January 2, 2018 at 2:52 pm

      Right?! They would make me feel so guilty if I didn’t go haha

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