At the close of every year you always hear the infamous “New Year, New Me”; however for the majority of us it often pans out to a continuous cycle of trying again next year. Don’t get me wrong I’m sure you’ve come up with an awesome game plan, have either completed some DIY Pinterest project, or purchased a number of items to help attain your goal (Trust me I’ve been right there with you!) but for some reason none of it seems to keep you on track.
An industry friend posted the below on his social platforms back in 2017 and although the message is 3 years old now it continues to make things click for me.
“F**k motivation. It’s a fickle and unreliable little d*ckf**k and isn’t worth your time. Better to cultivate discipline than to rely on motivation. Force yourself to do things. Force yourself to get up out of bed and practice. Force yourself to work. Motivation is fleeting and it’s easy to rely on because it requires no concentrated effort to get. Motivation comes to you, and you don’t have to chase after it. Discipline is reliable, motivation is fleeting. The question isn’t how to keep yourself motivated. It’s how to train yourself to work without it. Keep Moving #2017 ????? ” – Mike Tamzil of @thinktamz
Solutions over Resolutions
Res·o·lu·tion (noun) – a firm decision to do or not to do something.
Let’s start by no longer making resolutions because by definition it means you’ve already given yourself a 50% chance to fail. We all know what we want and have an idea of how to get there but we never give ourselves a good enough reason as to why it’s important to discipline ourselves to said goal.
For example: What- You want to lose weight. How -You’re going to start eating right & exercising x times a week. Why– You want to have an amazing summer body.
Everyone wants to have an amazing summer body, but dig deeper because not only do you want the results to carry over past the summer months, you need to assign a purposeful why to increase the longevity of your goal. Better reasons why could be because your family suffers from medical issues due to being overweight and you want to prevent that -OR- losing the weight will increase your confidence and overall mental wellbeing.
I’m sure you’ve seen a bunch of friends post what they wish to achieve on social media this year. But have you done so yet? If not, you should as they say if you post something on Social Media you’re more likely to commit and follow through. Want to start a business, lose weight, etc? Share your goals with your family, friends, and followers since their all your biggest support system. Last year when I was doing the Fit Girls Guide challenge and working out like 5-6 days a week; I would post Snaps & InstaStories about meal prepping and my visits to the gym constantly. Why? Not to show off, but because there were people in my circle doing the same exact thing and if I didn’t do my daily gym snap you better believe I received messages asking if I went to the gym that day. Displaying your goals and keeping them top-of-mind will not only aid you, but in-turn encourages your support system to also assist in making sure you maintain the level of discipline needed to accomplish your goal.
If you are seeking instant gratification everything I’ve written to this point won’t help you. Making lifestyle changes are never easy and all good things take time. Be patient, do your research and create realistic time frames for your goals. Don’t give up just because your business hasn’t skyrocketed, you aren’t seeing a weight change on the scale, or whatever it may be because this very point will determine if you were banking on a false sense of motivation or if you acquired the discipline to push through and keep moving!
With that said let’s permanently close the road to bad habits. Start speaking things into existence and let 2020 be the year you accomplish a
new BETTER you!
xo Sincerely Shanti
(Photography by Bearcat Photo)
Originally Posted: January 5, 2017