“You will always grow through, what you go through.” – Tyrese Gibson
As humans, we only tend to share what’s good in our lives but become radio silent otherwise. We sweep all the bad phases, relationships, friendships, and losses under a rug as if nothing happened. Even though these very people/situations we attempt to sweep away actually make an impact (good or bad) in our present day life.
Losing people whom you loved can either carry/release a lot of weight or both as you move through different phases of life. Personally, this year has definitely been an interesting one for me, let’s get into it a bit further…
At the beginning of the year, someone I previously dated’s journey through cancer ended. Death although being apart of the circle of life was something I’ve never experienced in such a close capacity before. Although I was able to understand the reality of them passing it’s like I was numb. On the outside looking in it would seem as if it didn’t faze me seeing my strength although deep down it did.
Fast forwarding the year up to my recent transition back to the single life. This time was very different for me, that typical breakup phase was nonexistent and I actually feel perfectly fine. To the point where I was even briefly confused for feeling this way after such a long time spent. The answer came from a wise woman who said you are unable to water a plant that has already died.
As our journey through life continues, we’ll experience trials and tribulations within ourselves and the people we encounter. At the end of the day, it just boils down to if you keep reliving the past and choose to harbor the pain within or release it and move forward.
If you asked me if I regret any moments in my life? The answer would always be no, I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m nowhere near perfect, none of us are. If I never encountered the people I have I wouldn’t be the person I am today. So when shit hits the fan don’t just sweep it under the rug. Express your feelings, let go, and free yourself from the burden of an unchangeable past.
Until next week…
xo Sincerely Shanti